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May 1, 2015

Ella and DadElla and Ma

It's true what they say, there really is no amount of research you can do to fully prepare yourself for first-time parenthood. Not in our case, anyway, which is to say that we have very few people in our lives who have had (or are planning to have) children. We're so new to this baby thing that I found myself shyly asking one of the nurses at the hospital, "Can you teach me how to hold a baby?"

The nurses taught us all sorts of new tricks, like how to swaddle, change diapers, breastfeed, soothe... I don't love the hospital birthing experience, but the nurses do help to fill a void that, in my case, is lacking in women who feel comfortable passing down their knowledge of the nitty gritty baby-raising details. There is so much about pregnancy and childbirth that I didn't know about until I was months and weeks away from the actual event. It's almost like entering a secret club, and I'm shocked that there's so much we don't openly discuss about it.

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Our birth plan didn't quite pan out the way we had hoped it would. Nature has a way of defying expectations, and, control-freak that I am, I had to learn to scrap my grand plans and take a more moment-by-moment approach. It was rough at first. I shy away from dealing with hardship in such a public way, but there is nothing private about giving birth. I had to shut down my Facebook timeline for a couple days and ignore my phone to stay sane, but in the end, I'm grateful to all our friends and family members who were there to support us.

And, ultimately, none of it really matters. She's here and she's perfect. I understand what it means when parents use the word "perfect" in reference to their babies now. You go through nine months of carrying for a developing human being, which is short enough of a timeline that you never quite feel 100% prepared, yet just long enough that you drive yourself insane with worry over all the things that could go wrong. And then at the end of those nine months, the baby arrives, everything intact, beautiful, a head full of hair (thus the heartburn), and hot damn if she isn't whole and perfect with her blue eyes and her ten little fingers and toes.

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When you're in the hospital, everything is a blur, but I knew we were going to be fine the minute we finally pulled up in our own driveway as a family of three. The sun was behind the clouds, but there was a whole new batch of spring flowers that had bloomed in the five days we were gone, and they were beautiful. It was a stop-and-smell-the-roses moment. Literally.

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As for the fur-babies, they've taken to baby Ella just fine. Little Wren was a bit put off to the crying for the first week or so, sensitive creature that she is, but she isn't much affected anymore. As for the fluffy feline, he's taken on his post as guard kitty.

And for the details: Baby Ella, born April 10th, 7lbs, 3 oz, 19 3/4 inches long. She's officially three weeks old today.

16 comments:

  1. This is lovely! Congratulations to you all, and I hope that the coming weeks are just as sweet.
    <3 Sera

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  2. Oh, this is a beautiful story! And isn't it true...you can prepare all you want, nature in the end takes control. She's so pretty, and perfect. You'll catch on, learn things your own way and will figure out what works for all three of you.

    Congratulations! I'm new to your blog and kept hoping you would post, but of course, you had much grander things to do! ♥

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  3. She is perfect! So lovely <3

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  4. She is so perfect! Congratulations!

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  5. Lovely! :) Congratulations. I love kitty on guard. There does seem to be so much that never gets talked about, isn't there.

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  6. Congratulations, dear Lindsay! She IS perfect :)

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  7. Congratulations--she's so beautiful!

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  8. congratulations!!! she is perfect and beautiful :)

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  9. Congratulations again, Lindsay!! I'm so happy for you! I hope you continue to have a wonderful time as a family of three with all the kitties standing guard :)

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  10. Beautiful baby girl! Beautiful name too - but I am a wee bit biased. Much love, and remember, you are Ella's expert. Only you have known her 9 months longer than anyone else.

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  11. Hooray! I must confess I'd been checking back a lot last month, waiting to read about baby's arrival! Glad to see you and Ella safe and home :) Congratulations!

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  12. She is precious! Congratulations!

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  13. Congratulations. I had to comment on the secret club comment. I am older, my kids are gone already but I agree, this is something that should change. I remember talking about my birth story and my mother was mortified I would tell the truth! This is wrong and it needs to be corrected. Also I will let you know now that there is a whole secret club over menopause too. After 7 years of debilitating depression (which 10 years later I still struggle with) I find out "oh, I went through that too!" Not everyone does thank goodness but why let women think they are going insane? Even my Drs. Drugs first questions second. Hopefully this will change.

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